ok, so i got home from work last night to find a cycling/running friend of ecw 'staying over' before the triathalon. presumably someone staying over means that he cannot/willnot stay at home with his wife and family for some reason, which i did not ask about because i did not want to know. i am somewhat troubled by this event- because it appears to have something to do with the triathalon- the time spent in training- running, biking, etc.- some spouses may not tolerate the time spent away from the bosom of the family. it is quite possible that ecw and i have stayed married 21+ years because we encourage each other to persue personal interests and allow each other the space to do so. i don't know that i would like him underfoot everywaking moment.......when he is away doing things he loves he always comes back happy, and a happy husband makes for a good relationship....