a loss.....

ok, so i have come to understand the intrinsic trauma suffered my a workmate whose daughter divorced this summer.......the loss of the partner of your child, whether to divorce or breakup....is upsetting.......we had embraced this person as if she would always be one of the family......and to discover that this was no longer in the cards.....we/i feel a profound sense of loss.....i have already bought her christmas gift......and while i understand the circumstances......i feel robbed in that i didn;'t get a chance to say goodbye...yeah...i wasn';t the boyfriend.....but i/we were the folks who thought we would know her forever.......there probably are not hallmark cards for such occassions......