mean mamma

ok, the my general meanness came into question last night at dinner, when i refused to let our daughter have a second huge helping of lasagna after she had already eaten a first huge helping, 2 pieces of bread.......and no salad.......yes, she could have salad.....but she had no business with extra lasagna....the meanness came up when the discussion of 'growing girls' was brought forth........our daughter, at age 11, has probably grown all that she will grow...given her current state of puberty.......at this mention....she burst into hysterics, spent time 'on the steps' cooling off.......and only later was calm enough to read on-line about the stages of growth in puberty, and associated milestones.......fortunately the article from nih stated tnat many girls have reached their full adult height by age 11........gentle readers.....this child, who was neglected as a young child to the point that she had no predictable availability of food has a problem with food.....if there are servings left in bowls on the table.....particularly of meat or starch...never with vegetables...go figure......she feels compelled to eat them.......we were stunned when she used a leftover roll to wipe out her ice cream bowl one day last week......she said she was still hungry and nobody else had wanted that roll.......given the fine line between allowing a child to become obese, and creating an eating problem.....i must tread carefully here......we do know that heaviness runs in her biological family.....she is not yet in this state...but she has quite a potential to become so......pray for us all here in this household, that we may make it through this child's adolescence.........