day 2

ok, so letting go of a pet is an incremental thing......i look for him where he is supposed to be.....like this morning walking out the front door to go up to the mailbox for the newspapers...i instinctively looked for oscar on his big green pillow on the porch......even though i personally removed the big green pillow so i wouldn't exoect to find him on it....these adjustments take time......and i expect that at some point i will stop listening for him climbing the stairs in the middle of the night to cry outside out door, or stop positioning all footstools and hassocks up on their matching chairs so he cannot use them as stepping stones for a cushy nap...before i turned out the lights last evening, i turned to go to his indoor pillow to nudge him gently to he would know to follow me out to his porch pillow.....and yes, that pillow has also been removed.....it is the routines that remain........it will take time.......maybe things will be easier on day 3......