ok, so the wedding on chrisman lane was troubling, despite it's beauty, simplicity and great food that i didn't have to prepare..........the vows that are made by people who have made before to others sound somewhat hollow.........i am not sure if the truth would be any better.....'i will love, honor and cherish you all the days of my life, or until such time that my interest fades away and i either give up or resolve myself to a life of married loneliness'.............my feelings are also colored by the lack of followthrough i have seen on the groom's part when it comes to his verbal commitment to continue to nurture my daughter after the adoption......my spouse has great hopes that the new wife....who is quite wonderful, by the way...........will help this person to organize his life in such a way that he will get back into spending time with her......cayle sees him as a father-figure......i see him as a father-figure who rarely shows up........