ok, so my husband was asked by a centre professor, who was recently interviewed by psychology today and redbook regarding the economics of love about how his marriage has lasted so long.....he replied, that we have separate bank accounts, and we give each other plenty of space........we didn't make the redbook cut.....however, our friends who fight by the wife doing all the talking wihile the husband sits and says nothing made the redbook article.....ha.......ecw and i have nothing to say about fighting because we do not fight.....i cannot remember the last time he spoke to me in a raised tone......or i to him..........when we talked of this tonight...he laughed and said that rather than fight i simply ignore him until he gives up.........which seems right...as my parents never fought and i have few resources on which to draw...better to ignore the debate as whatever is the matter will keep til another day.......on the other hand, his parents fought frequently...one visit to danville they screamed to high heaven about whose fault it was that my father in law arrived with no underwear.......i was in shock...as my parents would havw just driven to walmart and bought underwear rather than fight about it. and they would never have let on that there was an underwear issue.......