ok, so i almost blogged on stephan's blog because he failed to sign out before getting up from the computer, but then that would be mean, and even mean mamma has her standards..............................

i overheard a workmate yesterday talking about her name with another co-worker- she cited her last name as her slave name- and noted that she didn't know what her real family name was- that her family had taken the name of the master long ago and kept it. it occured to me that marriage is sort of like that- by tradition women take the name of their '7 day lord and master' and give up their own family names. except that they remember what that name is.......of course, 21 years after kind of keeping my birth name i still have people comment on it- like there was something worng with my husband's name rather than i was proud of my famiy name and was loathe to give it up.......