Monday, February 28, 2005

back to book club......

ok, so remember back to my book club last week....that the conversation somehow managed to stray from paris to the right to die cases pending in oregon and fla?.......well, one of the guests present (guest of a member...)...a widow for nearly a year, was reportedly quite upset about our choice of conversation topics and has vowed to never return to our group........this is disturbing to me, as my impression of the evening was anything but morose or inappropriate....and certainly nothing that struck me as callous.......all personal tendencies toward meanness aside.......maybe a year is not long enough for a widow to be able to voice opinions about death and dying........but to accuse close friends of her late husband of being insensitive is going too far.......are we never to speak of him that died....are we to pretend that he wasn't part of our lives, especially before he met and married her........and to suggest that she has the corner on grief is also insensitive on her part.......i may regret these last sentences.......but i am just as hurt at this moment to find out that she has raised a fuss as she might be that we talked of death and dying.......

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